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Feb 10, 2017

This week we are talking about our article sex work law reform and the Nordic model vs the New Zealand model (if you don't know what that means it is OK we will explain it.) Written by: Screw Taboo

Rants

Prove you were raped to keep tax credits

The UK government used Trump's inauguration to sneak out a change to out tax law that will force women who want to keep their tax credits for their third child, to prove it was rape that was the cause of that child. Otherwise they will not receive tax credits.

This is from an article I found in the Independent. It is simply outrageous and utter tone deaf of the government to do something like this.

Bright yellow car vandalised in the Cotswolds for spoiling the view

An 84 year old retired dentist has had is car written off when vandals attacked it during the night. The reason... because it was spoiling the view of their picturesque village.

Find out more from this article in the telegraph.

Misophonia - Turns out I'm mental

If you become angry at the sound of someone eating you might have Misophonia. It is a condition that, when triggered by the right sound, will cause you to get instantly angry.

A whole study was done, check it out in the New Scientist.

Sex Work Law Reform

The difference between the Nordic model vs the New Zealand model. In brief the the Nordic model doesn't criminalise selling sex but keeps buying sex illegal. The New Zealand model entirely legalises sex work in all its forms. Meaning sex works get the rights and responsibilities that all employees and employers have.

We talk about what those two models mean, what the UK law is like, and does it make sense to go down this path of opening it up.

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Feb 3, 2017

This week we are talking about our article based on the Valentine's gift guidewritten by Scandarella. Check out the article for a list of great things you can get for your valentines.

Pornhub statistics

How could I resist checking out the new pornhub statistics for 2016, and they are worth looking at. If nothing else just for the fun they have had with the graphics.

Some of the highlights

  • 3110 petabytes stremed over the year
  • 99 gigbytes streamed per minute
  • 91 billion videos watched

The British are cumming

There is an interesting selection of stats for the British. But the one I understand the least is the term "British Chav" I was hoping we had a little more class than that but it turns out that we don't.

Not just men

The great thing about these statistics is that they show not just the searches but the searches broken down by gender. So not only do women come in around the 30% of all people using the site they are more intrested in searching for the term "lesbian" than men.

Sports events have a huge impact

They have also gone to the trouble is breaking down the major sporting events of the year and show they affect an event like the super bowl has on viewing figures.

Valentines day gifts

Personally we don't feel like you need a specific day to appreciate the love of your life, but if it helps you focus on the other person in your life then enjoy it.

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Jan 26, 2017

This week we are talking about our post Red Flags written for us byMolly Moore.

Rant - Trump

Trump is President, and if you wanted to ever start a podcast now is probably a good time to do it because you will never be out of material while Trump is in charge.

What was really interesting was the lack of people who actually attended the inauguration. Then the new administration claimed it was the most popular ever in spite of the facts.. claiming them as "Alternative facts".

Sam Bee's report on Steven Mnuchin, the new Treasury Secretary. It is really just horrifying who is being put in.

Listener Suggestion

Thanks for Jess for this suggestion of the BBC Three series "Sex on the Edge" about peoples kinks. From breath play to chastity it covers a real wide range of topics, but does it in a thoughtful and honest way.

It is a really good watch, well worth your time checking out.

Rant - Russia deciminalises violence in the home

It is amazing that in this day and age anyone would think it is OK for a husband to beat his wife. But that seems to be case in Russia, it is perfectly fine.

Article from the Independent.

Red Flags

Molly did a great job laying out some simple red flags everyone should pay attention to when they crop up in your relationship.

None of these are a simple "if it pops up them it is always wrong" but the key thing to understand is if you feel something is wrong then trust your gut.

Key flags to pay attention to:

  • Keep me a secret
  • Naught to I love you
  • Your friends are bad for you
  • Your look nice… but
  • I work evenings and weekends
  • My place is a mess
  • Oh look something shiny
  • Trust your gut

If you are uneasy don't brush that aside. You deserve to be happy in you relationships.

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Jan 21, 2017

This week we are joined by Molly Moore as we talk about this weeks article written by Kayla Lords.

Who is Molly Moore

She is a blogger, a photographer, a published author, public speaker, and the operations director for Eroticon. She also living in a 24/7 D/s relationship with her partner DomSigns. She speaks openly about their relationship and has even been on Channel 4 to talk about how it works for them.

We have been wanting to get Molly on the show for some time and this seemed like the perfect opportunity to do it.

So what it is realy like being in a 24/7 relationship

There is a lot of fantasy around what that sort of relationship must be like, but the reality is something very different. Like all realtionships it takes a lot of work to understand the other person in the relationship before you can even start to dive deep into the Domination and submission that both sides want.

Molly talks about how it works for her. What she wants and how they get to something that works for the both of them. She also shares her thoughts on what it takes to make this sort of relationship work and gives some tips on things you can do to make it work, and things you should avoid.

A lot of people in these sorts of relationships say they feel a very deep connection with their partner because opening up about how these things make you feel means you have to share a lot about who you are and what you want. But like all things, it takes work.

Don't miss Eroticon

Thank you too Molly Moore for coming onto the show this week. Make sure you check out Eroticon and come to this amazing event 4th - 5th March. We will be there, and we are really looking forward to it.

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Jan 13, 2017

This week we are talking about relationship anarachy, what it means and what it is. This is based on the blog postRelationship Anarchy: A different approach by Screw Taboo

Shout outs

I spoke to a couple of other podcasters this week, they are great and worth talking to.

The Pageist

The Pageist has a podcast on BDSM and Sex-positive book reviews. This week she reviewed our website andpodcast (always a little nerve wrecking). We are actually going to be on her show very soon. Make sure you check her out, even if you are not that interested in erotica. She covers a lot of non-fiction and a fair amount about herself, and is usually very funny.

Check out The Pageist podcast feed

Kinky Discussions

Kinky Discussions is much more focused on BDSM and the personal experiences of the hosts DC Bear and Tiger Stripes. They have a lot of fun talking about the topic very openly and honestly. Nothing is out of bounds but it is fun and approachable.

We had a great chat about education in the BDSM community and where it can be improved.

Check out their show or catch them on twitter.

Relationship Anarchy

A bit of a strange concept, but one that is worth understanding. Read the article (more then once) and dig into how you feel about it.

What is it

Basically it is all about approaching your relationships from the perspective that you can decide how you want them to be. There doesn't have to be a primary relationship is you don't want one to be, just as your other relationships (sexual or not) can also be very important to you.

You love isn't deminished by loving more than one person.

The basic concept comes from a manifest put out by Andy Nordgren in 2006.

It says:

Love is abundant, and every relationship is unique

Love and respect instead of entitlement

Find your core set of relationship values

Heterosexism is rampant and out there, but don’t let fear lead you

Build for the lovely unexpected

Fake it til’ you make it

Trust is better

Change through communication

Customize your commitments

Post show rant

If you don't know much about Star Wars Rebels then stop now as this is something of a spoiler. But is it right to bring actors back from the dead to star in films?

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Jan 6, 2017

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Welcome to the new year

We hope you have had a lovely Christmas and New Year and are all ready for the year ahead. We have started the new year with more earth quakes in New Zealand with another large quake possible.

Something we didn't think about was keeping track of how many things we made this year. A shame would have been fun to tell everyone.

Digital economies bill in effect

As of the 1st of January your internet service provided is obliged to keep a record of every website you visit. As we have previously talked about the UK government can now do this without any reason to suspect you of anything and will keep the records for a year.

Anyway...

What's new in 2017

This week we are talking about the article written for us by Molly Moore onWhat's new in 2017.

Going out

If you have never done it before why not checkout a fetish market likeBirmingham Bizarre Bazaar or London Alternative Market.

If you are worried there is a great British trick to help you cope. Go and have a cup of tea. Nothing bad can happen while you are having a tea.

There are plenty of other great events you can check out that aren't as scary as going to a full on play event. From Smut UK and their events for erotic writers to the fantastic classes taking place at the Sh Womanstore.

Sh Womanstore

If you are at all worried about going to a sex shop then this is the one to go to, it is only for women (though men can get in accompanied). They are super nice and there to help, or just happy to leave you too it.

Events

Not talking about play events, there are plenty of those happening all the time. But there are also some much more intelectual events you can check out.

Eroticon - for erotic authors and sex bloggers to get together and talk about blogging, making friends, and learning new skills.

ETO - This is the adult trade show that happens every year. This isn't for the public but if you are involved in the industry it is the place to go to see what is new.

Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit - Another well established event for erotic writers and sex bloggers, this time in the US.

New toys

There is some very different toys out there that are very different.

Dec 30, 2016

Please note when we recorded this Carrie Fisher was still alive, she died later that day. Our thoughts are with her family.

This week we are talking about New Years resolutions and the articlewritten for us by Rebecca from A Couple of Kinks.

Digital economies Bill

In the news this week the European Court of Justice stepped in on the Snoopers Charter (RIPA). It turns out councils have been using the powers to spy on people for leaving their bins out, or walking their dogs. Not for counter terrorism which is what is supposed to be for.

Screw you 2016

I think it is fair to say that 2016 has not been the best of years for so many reasons. While every year has it's problems this one seems to be some what special in terms of crappy things happening.

Some especially crappy deaths

  • David Bowie
  • Gene Wilder
  • Alan Rickman
  • George Michael
  • Prince
  • finally now Carried Fished and Liz Smith

That seems to be an especially sad list because these are all people we have both grown up with, they have all contributed to varying extents to our lives.

Crappy politics

It has been an especially sad year for politics with some really terrible situations happening.

  • Donald Trump elected
  • Brexit
  • Digital Economies Bill

Other crappy things

  • Orlando shooting
  • Bombings in Berlin and Brussles
  • The garbage truck incident in Paris.
  • and so many more
  • Zika, Ebola
  • Earthquakes in New Zealand, Italy
  • Gravity Falls ended

New Years resolutions

The end of the year is a chance to look at the year and think about the coming year. You can decide if you want to change things and the new year can be a good time to do it.

Not the only way

Personally we both think that if you do want to change something about yourself then you should it at any time of the year. It isn't something that you should only do at the end of the year.

Making it work

You need to find a way to make it work for you. For some the pressure of doing something big can work. But for others that doesn't work at all.

You need to be realistic in what you can do, and putting a huge amount of pressure on yourself to change and do something bit (like going to the gym every day when you haven't been for 6 months) just isn't going to work.

You need to be realistic about what you can achieve and build yourself up.

Love yourself

You are awesome, this year make a promise to yourself to love yourself just a little bit more. For some it can be very hard, but learning to love who you are can change your life.

Dec 23, 2016

Merry Christmas! This week we are talking about Kink at Christmas based on this weeks blog post written for us by Victoria Blisse.

Dark edge to Christmas

I don't know if it is a English thing but do you find there is a black edge to Christmas. While we both love the giving side of Christmas here in the UK I have always thought there is a darker side to the holiday. Watching a good horror film is something that has to be done during the season.

Turns out this might be a UK thing because it isn't the way things are done in New Zealand. Probably largely because Christmas happens in the middle of summer down there.

London is just right during Christmas

Something special seems to happen in London during the Christmas season, it just seems to be what London was made for.

Alt Burlesque is closing

Perhaps it is a sign of the times but another alternative market is closing. For anyone who doesn't know Alt Burlesque is an event that happens once a month up and down the country where all manner of alternative companies come to show their products. It is a real shame because they have been running for 8 years.

Along with that there are shows throughout the day from pole dancing to burlesque. When we were there we saw the amazing Tickerty Boo doing two of her routines and they were stunning. She has a few of them up on YouTube if you are interested.

It also means you won't be able to see companies like Sequin Showstoppers quite so easily any more.

If you do want to see one before it is gone the very last one will be happening in Manchester in January.

Kinky at Christmas

Being kinky at Christmas isn't always easy, there is so much to get done that it can be do hard to find the time. But if you are of that persuasion it is part of who you are, so while you don't want the family to see it you still want to have fun.

You are not going to break Christmas if you don't get every single thing done. You are allowed to have fun as well. You are allowed to have some time for yourself at Christmas.

Take a bit of a break this Christmas. Have a good time, enjoy your family, but take a little time for you as well.

Dec 15, 2016

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This week we are talking about the wonderful article on how socks are sexy written for us by Molly Moore with the delightful Emmeline Peaches.

Who is Emmeline Peaches

Emmeline Peaches is a sex toy reviewer and blogger here in the UK, she writes daily on her blogemmelinepeachesreviews.com or you can find her on twitter.

Not only does she blog but she was also on Channel 4 this year talking about sex toys and got to take a tour around the Bondara factory.

We would just like to say a huge thank you to Emmeline for coming on the show. We are big fans so having her on was a total treat.

Sorry about the audio quality. To be able to record this we had to take a different approach from normal. While it has come out OK there is more work to do.

Rant: Digital Economy Bill

Well the bill was passed into law and now we have a surveillance state like no other. Not only will our government now be able to track every website you visit (regardless of whether they think you have done something or not).

But now they have even more powers to intercept phone calls, email, text messages, instant messages, pretty much anything.

But more importantly they can hack your devices (computers, phones, routers, printers). This requires oversight but not much.

Powers even China and Iran don't have

But something that was snuck into the bill was a section on how they can force companies to open or break their encryptions mechanisms to give the government access to the information they keep.

This is something even the USA hasn't been able to ask for, and something Iran and China can only dream about.

Is it practical, well that is another discussion but the fact is it has been made into law and that is a bad step.

There is a great article by Cory Doctorow in the Guardian on just how insidious it is.

Socks are sexy

There was a study done into the ability for couples to archive orgasm. Something that was found was when they were wearing socks their ability to reach orgasm went from 50% to 80%

The experiment

We were very lucky that Emmeline agreed to do a little experiment.

She is normally a sock wearer when she is in bed so to try out this idea she agreed to go sockless for a week to see what would happen.

More to socks than meets the eye

It turns out there is a lot more to socks than any of us thought there could be. From them looking sexy to being used as a toy for the BDSMers.

Dec 8, 2016

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This week we are talking about the article created for use by Molly Moore on 12 gifts for Christmas. This is going to help you decide what you can get someone special this Christmas.

Top 100 Sex Bloggers List

In case you missed it the Top 100 Sex Bloggers list came out (which we happened to sponsor) and it is well worth checking out.

Want to give a special shout out to A Couple of Kinks who we have done some work with, they are a lovely couple and have anamazing blog. Well worth checking out.

How is it scored

Molly has also written a great post on how she put the list together. Who helped out. And how the scoring was actually done. That alone is a good read becuase it shows how much work and effort goes into something like this.

It was amazing how close the scoring was between the top 10, and it was especially close between the top 3.

12 Gifts for this Christmas

It is hard to know what to get someone at Christmas, especially if you want to get them something sexy. This list has a great selection of different ideas that are a little out of the norm but well worth looking at.

There is a huge range of choices on the list, some worth really thinking about are:

  • Ceramic Pleasures - These are hand made custom painted dildos made from ceramic.
  • Idee Du Desir - Hand made wooden toys
  • Outlandish Creations - The most beautiful tea sets defiled with the most outragious words.. delightful.
  • Ruby Glow - Is a very different take on the classic vibrator designed by someone we happen to know Tabitha Rayne.
  • Nippleicious - Very pretty jewlery you wear on your nipples. Totally non-invasive and delightful.
  • Eroticon - A fantastic two day conference for erotic authors and bloggers. This has been so much fun the last couple of years and we are looking forward to being at the next one.

There are even more on the list, so go check it out.

Dec 2, 2016

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This week we are talking about 9 sexy reads you should curl up with this winter. Written for us by Molly Moore. You can check out the article and see the fully list of books she recommends you check out.

Rant - Digital Economies Bill

This week the Digital Economies Bill was passed into law here int he UK and it is one of the most disturbing pieces of legislation every to come onto the books here in the UK.

Note at the time of recording it hadn't yet been signed into law, now it has.

It grants the government unpressidented powers to spy on innocent UK citizens. To see a list of every website they visit, hack their computers and phones, break into encryptions, block access to any site, and bring in age verification checks for porn sites.

All in the name of fighting terrorism and protecting the children.

"Those who would give up essential Liberty, to purchase a little temporary Safety, deserve neither Liberty nor Safety." - Benjamin Franklin

It sets up a state of affairs China, Russia, or Iran would be very happy with and it is amazing it has managed to slip passed us all with bearly an eye brow raised. Thanks to things like Brexit and Trump we have taken our eye off the ball.

Check out posts written by Girl on the Net and Pandora Blake to see what this really means.

Books for this winter

Checkout the post for a full list of all the sexy books recommended by Molly. There are some great authors in there. As well as some classic books.

One exception we would add if you want something different to read but want some erotica as well is Anaïs Nin. Her subversive stories will leave you with a lot to think about.

Nov 25, 2016

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This week we are talking abou the article created for us by Layla calledA Long Explanation from a Lesbian with a Boyfriend. This is a great article by Layla.

Eatchquake in New Zealand

This last week there has been a series of huge earthquakes in New Zealand (Pixie's homepand). Fortunuately only a few people have died. But that hasn't stopped the huge devestation that has affects both islannds.

Our thoughts are with you all, hope it is all OK for you.

Nov 17, 2016

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This week we are talking about the article created for us by Molly Moore all about Long Distance Relationships.

But before that

Trump elected

It has to be talked about, it is a significant turning point in American history. It is something we honestly didn't think would happen. While we both find it hard to understand there have been a number of programs exploring who voted for Trump. While it is easy to dismiss them when you listen to why they have voted the way they have I can understand it.

What has happened here with Brexit isn't so far away from what has happened in the US. People have become sick of the established politicians and the lies they say to keep their jobs. They want something different and in the US Trump has presented that option.

It is a unique time in world history, it will be interesting to see what happens.

The lasting legacy... the supreme court

The most worrying part for me isn't the things he might do during his presidency isn't he will do during his time in office. It is the lasting effect he will have on the country through who he puts onto the supreme court. Those will be people who make decisions for the country for 30 years. The wrong person there can reverse some of the progressive decisions the US has made in the last few years.

Long distance relationships

We wanted Molly to write this one because Molly speaks from experience. Molly was moderating a forum. She started a friendship and that slowly turned into a relationship with Michael being in the US. Now they are happily living together here in the UK.

They are hard work, there is no doubt. But it is entirely possible to get to know someone and fall in love and find a way to make it work.

The most important take away for us was if you do have a LDR. When you do finally get the chance to meet you need to stay focused on enjoying the time you have. You mustn't focus on how short the time is.

Enjoy the time you get to spend with them, and plan to spend more time with them.

Little gestures go a long way

Giving little gestures that show you are thinking of the other person go a long way. Sending a hand written letter shows much more care and attention than any email ever could.

Nov 11, 2016

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Rant of the week: The Kinkly Top 100 List

This last week the Kinkly top 100 list has come out and it has prompted something of a discussion on the value of a list like that. Most notibly from the blogger in the number one spot Dangerious Lilly.

From that she wrote a really interesting article on the value of ranking lists and are they something she wants to support. From there a number of other bloggers have also written their thoughts including Girl on the Net and Emmeline Peaches.

The most amazing part of the discussion is Dangerious Lilly has given her prize money to the Woodhull Conference to enable a couple of bloggers who can't afford to go to make it too the next one.

But on top of that she raises a number of valid points about this sort of competition and does it hurt of hinder the community at large. It is a tough question with points on both sides.

This was especially interesting to us because we are proud to sponsor the Top 100 Sex bloggers list being compiled by Molly from Molly's Daily Kiss. We love her approach because it isn't a popularity contest, it is only judged on the quality of the content. Is it about ranking the community. No it is about recognising who is working hard and who to pay attention too.

To see someone who really only cared about her craft and the people around her checkout Katherine Hepburn's ONLY Academy Awards appearance (she was nominated 11 times, and won 4 times). She wasn't even there to accept an award for herself but to honor her friend. Then see her beat Anne Bancroft, Faye Dunnaway, and Audrey Hepburn all in one go and not even turn up to collect it. Awesome.

Dating apps

Futurama Reference: Don't date robots

This week we are talking about Jilly Boyd's post on Are dating apps the only way?Do dating apps take away the romance of actually meeting someone?

What is the perception of the dating apps, is it to find true love or is it to find someone to shag? Is it really so different from going to a night club to meet someone?

Easy to weed out the idiots

The idiots are out there, the men and women who don't want to know you they just want sex and nothing else. They are out there in real life so it is no wonder they are on the dating apps as well.

The beauty is where in real life they can be hard to spot on apps they usually announce what they want pretty early and you have no worry about just saying no.

Catfishing

One of the problems with a dating app (or any online dating) is you open yourself up to being tricked by the person you are talking too. That is much harder to do when you meet someone face to face.

The anonymity of online interactions makes it much easier to conceal you true identity if you wanted to. It is something to be aware of.

The problem of choice

One of the problems online dating and dating apps has introduced is the problem of choice. Where previously you only had a limited pool of people you could meet now there is an endless stream of potential partners.

So where previously you might have put up with small flaws in someone now you can ditch them because the next person will be perfect.

What do you think?

Do you use dating apps? Do they work for you? What do you like about them? We would love to know.

Nov 4, 2016

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This week

This week it is Halloween so how could we not have something spooky on the show? So we are talking about this weeks article called "How spooky can be sexy" written by Victoria Blisse.

Talking to a couple of people about coming onto the podcast, very exciting and didn't ever thing anyone would want to come onto the show.

Did you nominate for the best sex blog?

Did you put in your nomination for the #Top100SexBlogs2016? If not you have missed your chance. You can see the landing page here with all the nomination on it. So many have been put forward it is going to be a huge task to go through them all.

The list will be ready for the beginning of December. Looking forward to that.

A thing for vampires

For me vampires are not sexy, they are terrifying just as they should be. A vampire is not your friend, it is a monster that wants to kill you. All I can think of is a praying mantis.

For those who don't know, this is Rent-A-Ghost

But why does a vampire represent, why is a vampire sexy? A vampire represents pure power, with no limits or restrictions on what it can do a vampire is all the things we are not. Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac so it is hardly a surprise so many are attracted to them.

Buffy is the start of sexy vampires

We think it is fair to say that Buffy the vampire slayer is probably the start of popularising vampires as being sexy. So it probably fair to blame that show for things like Twilight because without it they just wouldn't exist.

Vampires on film

There are of course two legendary actors who have plated Dracula. Bela Legosi and Christopher Lee. But wonderful actors in their own rights. But for me being English no one compares to Mr Lee. He is my Dracula.

Less sexy

Something that is much less sexy is a film called "The house that dripped blood" that stared John Pertwee as a vampire. There is nothing quiet like it. If you love a bad/good classic horror film then go for it. It also happens to star Christopher Lee, Jon Pertwee, and Denholm Elliott. You couldn't ask for a better cast to make a cheesy film.

You can actually watch the whole thing on youtube.

The Dresden Files

Jim Butcher's series of books following Harry Dresden is a wonderful set of stories all about what it's like as a wizard private eye and living in a city with vampires, werewolfs, faries, demons, etc. They are a great read.

Comedy

I do love Armstrong & Miller's old school vampires in the modern world.

Oct 27, 2016

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This week we are talking about our article on what it is like writing sex toy reviews. Written by Joanne Summers.

A couple of rants

Before we get started I have a couple of rants I needed to get off my chest.

Women's Chess Championships

This years women's chess championships are due to take place in Iran, a country not exactly praised for its treatment of women. A number of players are calling for a boycott of the event, and they might just have a point.

But it opened up another question which was.. why is there even a women's championship? It's not like chess is a physical sport, the genders can easily compete fairly in this. So not just have a single championship open to all?

Update: There is an interesting take on it and why it is a positive thing in the Guardian as well. There are two sides to this.

New Rocky Horror Show

There is a new version of the Rocky Horror show put out by Fox as a live-ish even last week. While I have only seen a few bits of it, from everything I have seen they have totally missed the mark. Utterly destroying the entire premise of what this show is all about.

Writing sex toy reviews

It was really interesting to get Joanne's take on what it takes for her to create a review. One of the things we love about Joanne is how much effort she puts into her reviews. Not just trying it out once, but trying every toy at least 10 times, taking notes, photographing it, etc.

To make sure she gets everything she can out of that toy to give an honest review.

Cara Sutra is another great blogger/journalist we have worked with in the past and love dearly. She works at this 7 days a week and it is hard work. She wrote a great article on why it is so insulting for a company to ask her to write for free.

Having any blog is hard, doing good reviews is hard. Nothing about this is easy and the ones who do it are great.

Check out this podcast

If you enjoy erotica then checkout The Kiss Me Quicks Erotica Podcast with Rose Caraway. It's a great listen and a lot of fun.

Oct 21, 2016

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Disability and Sexuality

This week we are talking about disability and sexuality based on the article written for us byErryn Embers. We asked Erryn if she would write about it for use because her other half is a wheel chair user and we know she has some very strong and well thought out opinions about it.

Erryn is also a Cam Girl and has written about it for us previously and did a great job.

Sex education

She makes the great point that disability isn't talked about in sex education. It is hard to normalise it if it isn't discussed. This is a huge failing in the education of children because they need to be shown that it is just as normal as anything else.

How does it work

One of the questions she gets a lot is "How does it work"? You would never dreama about asking another couple how do you two have sex, why would you think it is OK to ask about them?

It also doesn't mean one of them has a special attraction to someone with a disability just becuase of their disability. It is totally possible to love someone because of who they are. They are a normal person just like everyone else, they just happen to have challenges.

There is something wrong in society that looks at people who are different as a object that is defined only by that thing. That isn't treating a person with the respect they deserve.

Scopes H.I.D.E. campaign

We spotted this during the parolympics and it is a campaign by scope. But we find it hard to see the funny side in treating adults like children.

We understand what they are trying to say, and of course we totally support it. But for us the humor misses the mark and just comes off a stupid. No one I have ever met would have any problem with someone with a disability in their work place. This sort of behaviour doesn't exist.

Oct 14, 2016

This week we are talking about non-fiction erotica based on the article written for us by Molly Moore. You can check out here web site and see some of her great photography.

Come and say hello

This weekend (Saturday 15th October) we will be at Smut Manchester. Where we are going to be teaching people how to make their own fun things in latex.

Nominate the top 100 sex blogs

Make sure you have nominated your favorite sex blogs. Molly is actually running this years top 100 sex blogs and collecting together all the nominations.

We love it because it isn't based on popularity, only quality. So having a huge following doesn't help you win, you have to good.

Make sure you have nominated your favorites.

Non-erotic fiction

Something that is true about any blog is that doing it consistently is really hard. You would think just writting words would be easy but it really isn't the case. Being consistent is even harder.

Sometime it is really easy to write a post, it just flows out of you like the one I did for EAN magazine. But othertimes it just doesn't want to come. Those are the times it is really hard.

Check out Stephen King's 20 tips for becoming a frighteningly good writter.

Molly on writting

She really started it for herself because she was exploring who she was. It is that personal feel that makes it so successful.

It is the personal and open side that makes it so interesting and fun to read. Because it isn't there to try and sell you something but just tell you who she is.

Being out there isn't always a good thing

You need to decide if you aree OK putting yourself out there because some people are going to use it to put you down.

But that is true no matter what you put out into the world. It just so happens a sex blog is a little more personal and so can be more painful.

It is something you need to think about if you do put yourself out there and make sure you are prepared for it.

Your blog doesn't have to be public

Just because you write a blog it doesn't mean you have to show it too the world, just as you can be totally anonymous if you want to be.

13 steps to surpression

Check out ther 13 steps to supression art exhibition.

Make sure you have nominated your favorite sex blogs.

Oct 13, 2016

This week we are talking about non-fiction erotica based on the article written for us by Molly Moore. You can check out here web site and see some of her great photography.

Come and say hello

This weekend (Saturday 15th October) we will be at Smut Manchester. Where we are going to be teaching people how to make their own fun things in latex.

Nominate the top 100 sex blogs

Make sure you have nominated your favorite sex blogs. Molly is actually running this years top 100 sex blogs and collecting together all the nominations.

We love it because it isn't based on popularity, only quality. So having a huge following doesn't help you win, you have to good.

Make sure you have nominated your favorites.

Non-erotic fiction

Something that is true about any blog is that doing it consistently is really hard. You would think just writting words would be easy but it really isn't the case. Being consistent is even harder.

Sometime it is really easy to write a post, it just flows out of you like the one I did for EAN magazine. But othertimes it just doesn't want to come. Those are the times it is really hard.

Check out Stephen King's 20 tips for becoming a frighteningly good writter.

Molly on writting

She really started it for herself because she was exploring who she was. It is that personal feel that makes it so successful.

It is the personal and open side that makes it so interesting and fun to read. Because it isn't there to try and sell you something but just tell you who she is.

Being out there isn't always a good thing

You need to decide if you aree OK putting yourself out there because some people are going to use it to put you down.

But that is true no matter what you put out into the world. It just so happens a sex blog is a little more personal and so can be more painful.

It is something you need to think about if you do put yourself out there and make sure you are prepared for it.

Your blog doesn't have to be public

Just because you write a blog it doesn't mean you have to show it too the world, just as you can be totally anonymous if you want to be.

13 steps to surpression

Check out ther 13 steps to supression art exhibition.

Make sure you have nominated your favorite sex blogs.

Oct 6, 2016

This week we are talking about Erotic Sketching thanks to the article written by Victoria Blisse.

But first - Top 100 Sex Blogs 2016

Did you know we are sponsoring this years Top 100 Sex Blogs list ? Nomination are open until 31st October 2016. Check out the rules and nominate as many of your favourite sex blogs as you like. Then follow the hashtag #Top100SexBlogs2016 on twitter to see what is going on.

When we were asked if we would sponsor this years list we jumped at the chance. We love working with the blogging community and the team at Molly's Daily Kiss. We have even thrown in a few extra prizes of our own to make it even more special.

If you love a sex blog make sure you show them a little love by nominating them.

Something else

If you are involved in the adult industry, you either make your own products or you retail them. We are doing something very different. We are brining together a number of people from a load of different companies to meet up and chat.

The purpose of the meetup is to talk about how we can help either other over the coming year. Find out new ideas, and get enthused about this business we are in and work out how we can do more.

For detials please contact us through the contact form and I will give you the details.

Erotic Sketching

This week we talk about the idea of erotic sketing, and the fun of going to a workshop and learning how to do it. You don't have to be an amazing artist. Anyone can come along and give it a try.

What is really nice about doing sketching is you don't have to be great at drawing to do it. It is about the process and understanding how to see the human form.

In the article Victoria also suggest some ideas on how you could even bring erotic sketching into your play at home.

Oct 6, 2016

This week we are talking about Erotic Sketching thanks to the article written by Victoria Blisse.

But first - Top 100 Sex Blogs 2016

Did you know we are sponsoring this years Top 100 Sex Blogs list ? Nomination are open until 31st October 2016. Check out the rules and nominate as many of your favourite sex blogs as you like. Then follow the hashtag #Top100SexBlogs2016 on twitter to see what is going on.

When we were asked if we would sponsor this years list we jumped at the chance. We love working with the blogging community and the team at Molly's Daily Kiss. We have even thrown in a few extra prizes of our own to make it even more special.

If you love a sex blog make sure you show them a little love by nominating them.

Something else

If you are involved in the adult industry, you either make your own products or you retail them. We are doing something very different. We are brining together a number of people from a load of different companies to meet up and chat.

The purpose of the meetup is to talk about how we can help either other over the coming year. Find out new ideas, and get enthused about this business we are in and work out how we can do more.

For detials please contact us through the contact form and I will give you the details.

Erotic Sketching

This week we talk about the idea of erotic sketing, and the fun of going to a workshop and learning how to do it. You don't have to be an amazing artist. Anyone can come along and give it a try.

What is really nice about doing sketching is you don't have to be great at drawing to do it. It is about the process and understanding how to see the human form.

In the article Victoria also suggest some ideas on how you could even bring erotic sketching into your play at home.

Sep 29, 2016

This week we are talking about Feminish and Submission, based on the article written for us byGirl on the Net. Are the two ideas mutually excluisive or are they more compatible than you might think?

Sep 22, 2016

This week we are talking about Female Genital Mutilation, piercings, and the law. This is based on the article we had written for us this week by Trojan Princess.

If you are sensitive to this topic please don't listen to it. We don't go into graphic details but we do understand it can be hard to listen to.

This question came about because there was a lot of news last year about whether it was legal for a woman in the UK to have their genitals pierced. It seems like a strange question but because of the FGM laws there isn't a simple answer.

It turns out that getting a genital piercing is done by about 2% of the UK population (1.2 million people). So it isn't uncommon.

What is FGM and what is the law trying to stop

The UK law is based on the World Health Organisations (WHO) definitions of FGM.

Four types of FGM:

  • Type I: Clitoridectomy: partial or total removal of the clitoris;
  • Type II: Excision: partial or total removal of the clitoris and the labia minora, with or without excision of the labia majora;
  • Type III: Infibulation: narrowing of the virginal opening through the creation of a covering seal:
  • Type IV: Other: all other harmful procedures to the female genitalia for non-medical purposes, e.g. pricking, piercing, incising, scraping and cauterizing the genital area. As you can see Type IV specifically mentions piercing. Bummer for piercing fans.

It is the last type that makes piercing problematic.

Where does it come from

This isn't a normal practice in the UK, and from what I understand it isn't something that is actually carried out in the UK. It really springs from religious ideas of keeping young girls pure in places like Africa and the middle east.

Unfortuately it still goes on now and the biggest problem the UK faces is parents taking their young girls out of the country to have this done to them and then brought back.

The UK law specifically targets people who knowingly allow this to happen or plan it.

The damage

The damage this causes is incredible. Putting aside the horrific pain this causes, both immediate but also for the rest of that girls life.

The mental damage this causes is horrific and will psychologically damage that person for their entire life. Those problems could manifest in many ways and a lot of them very serious.

The law

The law is there to protect these girls from this happening to them. Not only by making it illegal to do it, but also making it illegal to plan it. This law is essential to protecting these girls.

The problem arrises because it the law draws no distinction between a girl being forced into having FGM done too them and someone who chooses to have piercings for cosmetic effect.

In the eyes of the law any piercing of the genitals is classed and FGM. If you do have itk done and end up going to the hospital, the doctors and nurses are duty bound to report those piercings as FGM.

Further reading

Sep 16, 2016

This week we are talking about the UK porn laws, what they are and how they affect you in suprising ways. This is based on our article this week written by Screw Taboo.

Where to start

One of the biggest problems with our laws is that no one can be totally sure what is legal and what isn't until it is judged in a court. That opinion can even change from case to case based on the jury who judges it.

"The law is an ass" - Charles Dickens

So when does something become illegal?

There is a very broard range of things a pair of adults can do together including bondage, breath play, water sports. All these things are perfectly legal until you commit them to film.

Or more worringly until you write about them in some cases. That isn't just writting about them in the form of a story, but writting them in a text message you send from your phone or on Facebook is deemed as publishing them, and that can make them illegal to posses.

It is worth understanding "The obscene publication act comes into effect when something becomes published". Publised in this case means commited to a medium of any kind.

  • Shooting a film on a video camera is publishing
  • Shooting images on your phone is publishing
  • Writting a sexy story in a chat window to a friend is publishing

Corrupting poeple

The of the quesitons is if people are afraid of the public becoming corrupted then why don't half the films out there get taken down by the same law?

"Start from a position of freedom not a position of repression"

One of the most interest aspects of this is how something becomes published (recorded into any form). Imagine you take a pcture with your phone, if you later delete that image but the phone keeps a copy. You can still be prosecuted even if you don't know the phone is keeping it.

Guilty without knowing it

The most scrary part of these laws for us is that you can be guilty of a very serious crime without ever knowing it has happened.

An image in your twitter feed could be breaking the law. You might not even see it come in, you went straight past it. The browser can keep a copy of that image and that can later be used to prosecute you.

Of course we understand why these laws have come about. We just hope that a judge or CPS would be understanding in their approach to prosecuting someone. But they don't have to be understanding.

Sep 9, 2016

This week we are talking about the our article called "What is Feminism?". Where Girl on the Net walks us through her thoughts on Feminism, what it means to her, and why if you stand up for equality between the sexes you are a feminist.

This is one of those articles where Andrew wasn't sure if it should be written for us where as Pixie was really interested in Girl on the Nets thoughts.

It's not about being a man hater

This is of course how it is sometimes portrayed on TV, that is what gets ratings and makes for good TV. But that really isn't what it is about and isn't the part you should to focus on.

In many ways we have both been very lucky in that we have both been brought up to believe than men and women can do anything they like. There are no limits on where they can work or what they can do. Even coming from IT backgrounds (which are very male dominated) isn't as chauvinistic as it might appear.

Is "Feminism" a problematic term

This is a discussion we have had on twitter this week since the article came out. While we can see why some people have a problem with the term there is a really good reason why the term "feminism" is important.

When you are in a privilaged position it can be hard to see why other people feel oppressed and hurt by society at large. It is why you must be sensitive to why they want to use that term.

Patriarchal society

Something we don't see is how even our language reinforces the stero types and maintains that male dominance.

When a man sleeps around he is a "real man", when a women does it she is a "slut".

When someone is strong they are manly, when they cry they are a sissy or acting like a girl.

Whether you mean it or not women are portrayed as weak and needing help, even by the language we use. These are not always conscious decision.

The aftershow

As we were wrapping up we started talking about the news and how in France women and being told what they can and can't wear on the beach. Something we just can't understand in a country that values personal liberty.

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