This week we are talking about Feminish and Submission, based on the article written for us byGirl on the Net. Are the two ideas mutually excluisive or are they more compatible than you might think?
This week we are talking about Female Genital Mutilation, piercings, and the law. This is based on the article we had written for us this week by Trojan Princess.
If you are sensitive to this topic please don't listen to it. We don't go into graphic details but we do understand it can be hard to listen to.
This question came about because there was a lot of news last year about whether it was legal for a woman in the UK to have their genitals pierced. It seems like a strange question but because of the FGM laws there isn't a simple answer.
It turns out that getting a genital piercing is done by about 2% of the UK population (1.2 million people). So it isn't uncommon.
The UK law is based on the World Health Organisations (WHO) definitions of FGM.
It is the last type that makes piercing problematic.
This isn't a normal practice in the UK, and from what I understand it isn't something that is actually carried out in the UK. It really springs from religious ideas of keeping young girls pure in places like Africa and the middle east.
Unfortuately it still goes on now and the biggest problem the UK faces is parents taking their young girls out of the country to have this done to them and then brought back.
The UK law specifically targets people who knowingly allow this to happen or plan it.
The damage this causes is incredible. Putting aside the horrific pain this causes, both immediate but also for the rest of that girls life.
The mental damage this causes is horrific and will psychologically damage that person for their entire life. Those problems could manifest in many ways and a lot of them very serious.
The law is there to protect these girls from this happening to them. Not only by making it illegal to do it, but also making it illegal to plan it. This law is essential to protecting these girls.
The problem arrises because it the law draws no distinction between a girl being forced into having FGM done too them and someone who chooses to have piercings for cosmetic effect.
In the eyes of the law any piercing of the genitals is classed and FGM. If you do have itk done and end up going to the hospital, the doctors and nurses are duty bound to report those piercings as FGM.
This week we are talking about the UK porn laws, what they are and how they affect you in suprising ways. This is based on our article this week written by Screw Taboo.
One of the biggest problems with our laws is that no one can be totally sure what is legal and what isn't until it is judged in a court. That opinion can even change from case to case based on the jury who judges it.
"The law is an ass" - Charles Dickens
There is a very broard range of things a pair of adults can do together including bondage, breath play, water sports. All these things are perfectly legal until you commit them to film.
Or more worringly until you write about them in some cases. That isn't just writting about them in the form of a story, but writting them in a text message you send from your phone or on Facebook is deemed as publishing them, and that can make them illegal to posses.
It is worth understanding "The obscene publication act comes into effect when something becomes published". Publised in this case means commited to a medium of any kind.
The of the quesitons is if people are afraid of the public becoming corrupted then why don't half the films out there get taken down by the same law?
"Start from a position of freedom not a position of repression"
One of the most interest aspects of this is how something becomes published (recorded into any form). Imagine you take a pcture with your phone, if you later delete that image but the phone keeps a copy. You can still be prosecuted even if you don't know the phone is keeping it.
The most scrary part of these laws for us is that you can be guilty of a very serious crime without ever knowing it has happened.
An image in your twitter feed could be breaking the law. You might not even see it come in, you went straight past it. The browser can keep a copy of that image and that can later be used to prosecute you.
Of course we understand why these laws have come about. We just hope that a judge or CPS would be understanding in their approach to prosecuting someone. But they don't have to be understanding.
This week we are talking about the our article called "What is Feminism?". Where Girl on the Net walks us through her thoughts on Feminism, what it means to her, and why if you stand up for equality between the sexes you are a feminist.
This is one of those articles where Andrew wasn't sure if it should be written for us where as Pixie was really interested in Girl on the Nets thoughts.
This is of course how it is sometimes portrayed on TV, that is what gets ratings and makes for good TV. But that really isn't what it is about and isn't the part you should to focus on.
In many ways we have both been very lucky in that we have both been brought up to believe than men and women can do anything they like. There are no limits on where they can work or what they can do. Even coming from IT backgrounds (which are very male dominated) isn't as chauvinistic as it might appear.
This is a discussion we have had on twitter this week since the article came out. While we can see why some people have a problem with the term there is a really good reason why the term "feminism" is important.
When you are in a privilaged position it can be hard to see why other people feel oppressed and hurt by society at large. It is why you must be sensitive to why they want to use that term.
Something we don't see is how even our language reinforces the stero types and maintains that male dominance.
When a man sleeps around he is a "real man", when a women does it she is a "slut".
When someone is strong they are manly, when they cry they are a sissy or acting like a girl.
Whether you mean it or not women are portrayed as weak and needing help, even by the language we use. These are not always conscious decision.
As we were wrapping up we started talking about the news and how in France women and being told what they can and can't wear on the beach. Something we just can't understand in a country that values personal liberty.
This week we are talking about food and sex based on this weeks article written for us by Girl on the Net.
"Sploshing" is the term for sex involving food, usually involving a lot of it or something very mucky. But bringing food into the bedroom (or where ever you play) can be a lot of fun.
Today we find out Andrew doesn't like getting mucky.
If you don't want to get food on your bed you can use a fluid proof sheet from Sheets of SanFrancisco.
Turns out I'm not a great fan of painting someone in chocolate, but if you do like chocolate then you can have a lot of fun
Girl on the Net makes a great point that a little cream is nice, but a mouthful of it isn't sexy at all
The problem with any food is the sugar in it, once it gets into a body cavity then it can easily cause an infection. Which really isn't something you want.
Much easier to understand Ice can give you a huge range of options not just the cold feeling but as part of your sensation play to enhance your play. It has the advantage it doesn't leave behind a sticky mess.
Just make sure you don't get a ice cube stuck onto something. Run it through your hand first to give it a layer of water.
This can be very painful if it is inserted, but depending on the type of play you are going for that might be just what you are going for.
Tingle lubs or oils like pepermint can have a very strong heating effect. It can be a lot of fun to play with, but make sure you try it out before you use it. What works perfectly for one person might not work at all (or be painful) for someone else.