Please note when we recorded this Carrie Fisher was still alive, she died later that day. Our thoughts are with her family.
In the news this week the European Court of Justice stepped in on the Snoopers Charter (RIPA). It turns out councils have been using the powers to spy on people for leaving their bins out, or walking their dogs. Not for counter terrorism which is what is supposed to be for.
I think it is fair to say that 2016 has not been the best of years for so many reasons. While every year has it's problems this one seems to be some what special in terms of crappy things happening.
That seems to be an especially sad list because these are all people we have both grown up with, they have all contributed to varying extents to our lives.
It has been an especially sad year for politics with some really terrible situations happening.
The end of the year is a chance to look at the year and think about the coming year. You can decide if you want to change things and the new year can be a good time to do it.
Personally we both think that if you do want to change something about yourself then you should it at any time of the year. It isn't something that you should only do at the end of the year.
You need to find a way to make it work for you. For some the pressure of doing something big can work. But for others that doesn't work at all.
You need to be realistic in what you can do, and putting a huge amount of pressure on yourself to change and do something bit (like going to the gym every day when you haven't been for 6 months) just isn't going to work.
You need to be realistic about what you can achieve and build yourself up.
You are awesome, this year make a promise to yourself to love yourself just a little bit more. For some it can be very hard, but learning to love who you are can change your life.
I don't know if it is a English thing but do you find there is a black edge to Christmas. While we both love the giving side of Christmas here in the UK I have always thought there is a darker side to the holiday. Watching a good horror film is something that has to be done during the season.
Turns out this might be a UK thing because it isn't the way things are done in New Zealand. Probably largely because Christmas happens in the middle of summer down there.
Something special seems to happen in London during the Christmas season, it just seems to be what London was made for.
Perhaps it is a sign of the times but another alternative market is closing. For anyone who doesn't know Alt Burlesque is an event that happens once a month up and down the country where all manner of alternative companies come to show their products. It is a real shame because they have been running for 8 years.
Along with that there are shows throughout the day from pole dancing to burlesque. When we were there we saw the amazing Tickerty Boo doing two of her routines and they were stunning. She has a few of them up on YouTube if you are interested.
It also means you won't be able to see companies like Sequin Showstoppers quite so easily any more.
If you do want to see one before it is gone the very last one will be happening in Manchester in January.
Being kinky at Christmas isn't always easy, there is so much to get done that it can be do hard to find the time. But if you are of that persuasion it is part of who you are, so while you don't want the family to see it you still want to have fun.
You are not going to break Christmas if you don't get every single thing done. You are allowed to have fun as well. You are allowed to have some time for yourself at Christmas.
Take a bit of a break this Christmas. Have a good time, enjoy your family, but take a little time for you as well.
Not only does she blog but she was also on Channel 4 this year talking about sex toys and got to take a tour around the Bondara factory.
We would just like to say a huge thank you to Emmeline for coming on the show. We are big fans so having her on was a total treat.
Sorry about the audio quality. To be able to record this we had to take a different approach from normal. While it has come out OK there is more work to do.
Well the bill was passed into law and now we have a surveillance state like no other. Not only will our government now be able to track every website you visit (regardless of whether they think you have done something or not).
But now they have even more powers to intercept phone calls, email, text messages, instant messages, pretty much anything.
But more importantly they can hack your devices (computers, phones, routers, printers). This requires oversight but not much.
But something that was snuck into the bill was a section on how they can force companies to open or break their encryptions mechanisms to give the government access to the information they keep.
This is something even the USA hasn't been able to ask for, and something Iran and China can only dream about.
Is it practical, well that is another discussion but the fact is it has been made into law and that is a bad step.
There is a great article by Cory Doctorow in the Guardian on just how insidious it is.
There was a study done into the ability for couples to archive orgasm. Something that was found was when they were wearing socks their ability to reach orgasm went from 50% to 80%
We were very lucky that Emmeline agreed to do a little experiment.
She is normally a sock wearer when she is in bed so to try out this idea she agreed to go sockless for a week to see what would happen.
It turns out there is a lot more to socks than any of us thought there could be. From them looking sexy to being used as a toy for the BDSMers.
In case you missed it the Top 100 Sex Bloggers list came out (which we happened to sponsor) and it is well worth checking out.
Want to give a special shout out to A Couple of Kinks who we have done some work with, they are a lovely couple and have anamazing blog. Well worth checking out.
Molly has also written a great post on how she put the list together. Who helped out. And how the scoring was actually done. That alone is a good read becuase it shows how much work and effort goes into something like this.
It was amazing how close the scoring was between the top 10, and it was especially close between the top 3.
It is hard to know what to get someone at Christmas, especially if you want to get them something sexy. This list has a great selection of different ideas that are a little out of the norm but well worth looking at.
There is a huge range of choices on the list, some worth really thinking about are:
There are even more on the list, so go check it out.
This week we are talking about 9 sexy reads you should curl up with this winter. Written for us by Molly Moore. You can check out the article and see the fully list of books she recommends you check out.
This week the Digital Economies Bill was passed into law here int he UK and it is one of the most disturbing pieces of legislation every to come onto the books here in the UK.
Note at the time of recording it hadn't yet been signed into law, now it has.
It grants the government unpressidented powers to spy on innocent UK citizens. To see a list of every website they visit, hack their computers and phones, break into encryptions, block access to any site, and bring in age verification checks for porn sites.
All in the name of fighting terrorism and protecting the children.
"Those who would give up essential Liberty, to purchase a little temporary Safety, deserve neither Liberty nor Safety." - Benjamin Franklin
It sets up a state of affairs China, Russia, or Iran would be very happy with and it is amazing it has managed to slip passed us all with bearly an eye brow raised. Thanks to things like Brexit and Trump we have taken our eye off the ball.
Checkout the post for a full list of all the sexy books recommended by Molly. There are some great authors in there. As well as some classic books.
One exception we would add if you want something different to read but want some erotica as well is Anaïs Nin. Her subversive stories will leave you with a lot to think about.