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Aug 3, 2017

This week we are talking about our article Colour my kink written by Emmeline Peaches. Colour can have such a huge affect on your mood, so getting it right is very important.

This week we are also sticking to the new format of 30 minutes. Keeping it trimmed down as much as possible but that doesn't mean we don't have time for some rants.

Rants

Little Shop of Horrors is being remade

There are a few films that I think should never be touched. Among them is the musical version of Little Shop of Horrors. Directed by Frank Oz (the voice of Yoda) in 1986 it is an incredibly tight and hilariously funny musical about a plant that wants to take over the world. The special effect still stand up now, and the cast is top notch. Remaking this can only make an inferior film, even if Rebel Wilson is in it.

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President Trump banns transgender people from serving in the military

Out of nowhere Donald Trump has decided to ban transgender individuals from serving in the military in any way. In what might ultimately be an illegal decision it is a sad day for the US.

To their credit The Pentagon came out and said they do not take orders by tweet, and they would have to see a signed order from the President before they would even consider what to do.

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Richard Littlejohn's homophobic rant

Published this week int he Daily Mail columnist Richard Littlejohn posted a huge homophobic rant agains one of the Royal Navy's top generals when he came out saying he is glad we would not ban transgender people from serving.

In what is little more than a homophobic and transphobic tirade Littlejohn shows his true colours.

Find out more from Pink News

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Aug 1, 2017

Colour has a huge affect  on how you feel, but you don't always notice it. 

Jul 31, 2017

This week we are talking about Sex on film. From this weeks blog post by LadyLaidBear.

We are trying something new this week, we are going to keep the length of the episode down to around 30 minutes. Mainly in an attempt to stop Andrew rambling on for ever. Let us know what you think.

Rants

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Jul 7, 2017

What are your rights? Is being allowed to enjoy your kinks one of those rights? Surprisingly the answer to these questions isn't clear. Here in the UK you can not agree to assult, and of course spanking someone is a form of assult. So technically you can never agree to it, and the one doing the spanking can be prosecuted.

This week we are talking about the article written for us by Kayla Lords. Kayla writes about BDSM and other sexy matters, and has her own podcast Loving BDSM that is well worth checking out.

Jun 29, 2017

Notes coming soon

Jun 23, 2017

This week we are talking about our article by Victoria Blisse called Kink & Religion.

Rants

Grenfell Tower

This week we have to talk about the tragedy that is Grenfell tower. How it is possible for the refurbished tower block can go up in flames like it did with so many lives lost is totally beyond us, and shouldn't have happened. Our thoughts go out to all the families affected.

Amazon doesn't want you looking up the price of books on Amazon [12:08]

Amazon has filed for a patent that would allow it to block access to its own website if you are using the Wifi in one of their shop locations. They don't want you finding the book cheaper online so they will block access or adjust the prices of books to make the shop seem more competative.

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Police working hard to stop video going into the public domain [15:47]

States in the USA are working hard to make sure video from police body cameras are kept out of the public domain. In a blow for open and transparent policing in the US some starts are working to make sure only the video they want to release is shown to the public.

This is a worrying trend.

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Kink & Religion [23:15]

This was a hard one to decide if we should put it out. Religion is something people hold very dear, just as their kinks are important to them. We don't want to offend anyone but this is one we thought was worth talking about.

This is from Victoria Blisse. One day she accidentally outed herself to her reverend. From that point on suddenly we was removed from the board of governers and just generally treated her like crap.

Rightly she left that church and went looking for a church that is more open and welcoming to people of all types and kinks.

Jun 16, 2017

This week we need to appologise a little as we missed last weeks episode. Technical problems abound and it just wasn't going to happen. This week there is still technical issued going on but we did at least get the episode out.

Political Warning

We do get a little ranty on politics this week. Not a huge surprise considering the attacks and the general election we have just had. If that isn't your thing then I'm sorry about that but we just can't seem to let it go.

Book Recommendation

Chav: The demonization of the working class by Owen Jones. While I don't know how biased the author is he does go into a lot of detail on what has happened in British Politics and how one group of people have been specifically attacked for no reason other than being poor. It's a tough read in places but worthwhile.

Rope Bondage

Last weeks article was written by Emmeline Peaches on how for some Rope Bondage is a form of meditation and can help them release their anxieties. It isn't going to work for everyone but for some it is just perfect.

Bi-Erasure

This week ACoupleOfKinks are talking about how she came out to her partner and what being "bi" meant to her. How she struggled to even realise that is what she was and by reading other peoples accounts she was able to process her own feelings and understand who she was. It is a great read so do check it out on the site.

 

 

Jun 1, 2017

Show notes coming

May 25, 2017

This week we are talking about Asexuality based on the article written for us by The Pageiest.

Rants

Caitlyn Jenner suffers transphobic abuse [0:50]

While coming out of an award ceremony where Caitlyn had been awared the Loud and Proud trophy following her transistion last year, she was abused by some thug in London. Fortunately the police are taking it seriously.

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Theresa May wants to control and regulate the Internet [3:08]

The Conservative Manifesto lays out the plan for the government to control all aspects of how the British use the Internet. Not only looking to control access to terrotist material and hate speach they have worded those to be the equivilent to porn as being harmful to us all.

"In harnessing the digital revolution, we must take steps to protect the vulnerable and give people confidence to use the internet without fear of abuse, criminality or exposure to horrific content", the manifesto claims in a section called 'the safest place to be online'.

Find out more and know what you are voting for

Praise

Oregon moves to allow third gender on driving licenses [15:37]

Being put to the vote in Oregon at the moment is a law that will allow a third "not specified" gender to be allowable on driving licenses in the state.

This is a huge step forward for civil rights in the US in recognising that male and female are not the only options.

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Asexuality [18:04]

Being Asexual is something that isn't talked about often. But there are a lot of people out there who don't feel the need for sex as other people do.

That doesn't mean they don't want companionship or have other needs they want filled. They simply don't focus on sex as their main focus.

Alix Fox on the Close Encounters podcast did a great interview with someone who identifies as asexual.

But there is a lot of misconceptions out there around what asexual people must be like. Of course none of those misconceptions are true but they persist.

Make sure you checkout The Pageist her blog and her podcast.

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May 19, 2017

This week we are talking about our article called "Why you need Kinky Friends written" by Emmeline Peaches.

Did you know we have been doing this for a year

I quickly went back and looked over what we have done and it turns out the podcast is over a year old.. and we managed to get to this point without missing any episodes. Which is a huge shock to me.

If you have been listening for a year, thank you.

Rants

Stephen Fry in trouble with Irish police for Blasphemy [4:15]

The police in Ireland are investigating a complaint of blasphemy regarding comments Stephen Fry made on a TV show in Ireland (in 2015).

If you are not offended by peoples opinions or opinions that might not be your own check out what Stephen Fry said.

Check out a clip from Holy Flying Circus, it is hilarious. It is a film well worth watching, very funny with a strong message.

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Woman found guilty for laughing at Jess Sessions [13:00]

During the swearing in of Jeff Sessions to be the next Attorney General a woman laughed when Senator Richard Shelby said that he had a record of "treating all Americans equally under the law".

She faces up to a year in prison.

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Why you need Kinky Friends [19:26]

Whether you are kinky or not having kinky friends is good for you. It allows you to open up and talking about aspects of yourself with someone who won't judge you for the things you think or feel. That sort of friendship can be incredibly liberating.

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May 12, 2017

This week we are joined by the amazing Candy Snatch as we talk about why plus size latex is important. Sorry if the sound quality isn't up to our normal standards, we did this in the car just after our photo shoot so not in the normal studio.

Rants

Trumps latest health secretary pick thinks IUDs kill babies [1.54]

Trumps newest appointment thinks that IUDs actually kill babies in the womb and has the backing of various groups known for their anti-LGBT stance.

Yoest has also said that she believes abortions cause breast cancer—a claim that has been thoroughly debunked by cancer experts—and that contraception doesn't reduce abortion rates—an idea that has also been debunked through non-partisan scientific research.

An interesting pick considering now she is in charge of the health of millions of people.

Read more about it

The FCC wants to kill net neutrality [3.39]

Net neutrality is what gives all websites on the Internet a level playing field in terms of people being able to visit them. There is no preference paid to one website over another so everyone has a fair chance of being heard.

The new administration wants to get rid of these rules and allow cable companies to charge companies to get preferential treatment over others who don't/can't pay.

Read more about it

Chechnya concentration camps for gay people [5.51]

The Chechen government is in the process of moving gay people to concentration camps and killing them. This has been reported a number of times but for some reason hasn't made it too the mainstream media.

This week it was discussed in parliament and yet somehow it still hasn't become big news.

Read more about it

Mannequins present a dangerous view [8.33]

New research shows that the body size of mannequins in shops presents an image to men and women that is unobtainable.

"Because ultra-thin ideals encourage the development of body image problems in young people, we need to change the environment to reduce emphasis on the value of extreme thinness.

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Why designing for plus size is important [13.30]

We have started our own range of plus size clothing (at the moment in latex) because there is a serious lack of anything out there for plus size people (and anything over a 16 is a plus size - 40% of the population).

Check out our guest - Candy Snatch

Make sure you go and checkout Candy Snatch and visit her site.

To see shots from the photoshoot

They have actually already started to appear on our Instagram so go check them out there.

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May 4, 2017

This week we are talking about the article written for us by Candy Snatch on Plus size fashion woes.

The idea of a "plus size" isn't one we really like when everyone of size 16 or above is classed as "plus size" when that actually covers 47% of the population.

Rants

Isle of Wight MP steps down after calling gay people "dangerous" [4:14]

Andrew Turner the MP for the Isle of Wight has stepped down after talking to a group of students and telling them that he thought homosexuality is "wrong" and "dangerous to society".

Read more on the BBC

Digital Economies Bill to become Law [11:00]

The digital economies bill has gain royal ascent which means it is only a matter of time before it becomes law here in the UK. It has far reaching effects on the Internet, one of the most chilling is forcing porn sites to verify the age of the user before they come onto the site. This is going to have an incredibly damaging effect on the growing indy porn scene here in the UK, let alone cam-girls and other home grown porn related sites.

But the reach if much larger than that. Any porn site that can be viewed from the UK must verify the age of the user or will be blocked in the UK.

Pandora Blake has made a great video on what it is and how it works. Check it out and support her on Patreon.

Plus Size Discrimination [38:08]

If you are thin finding clothes isn't a problem. You can find interesting designs in fun colours. But if you are plus size (as almost half of the UK population is) you have a much harder time.

Plus size lingerie shop asked to take down pictures [47:52]

A lingerie show in the UK called Livi Rae was asked to take down pictures of plus size and disabled models from their shop windows because they were "in poor taste".

If it has been thin models as they had previously had nothing would have been said. But because these models were outside the norm it wasn't acceptable. The very definition of discrimination.

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Apr 28, 2017

Anxiety at Events

This week we are talking about anxiety and events. Based on the post written for us by Princess of Kink. Anxiety is something that affects a lot of people but everyone tends to feel they are alone in it, when really everyone in the room and be feeling it some extent.

Rants

Cornwall Teen Disciplined for Extreme Hair Style [2:02]

A teenager in Cornwall is being forced to study on his own after he had his head shaved to support his friend who has cancer. Normally this is something I can understand, a school has to have a certain level of uniform with their students, but it seems a little extreme to punish this boy when he was doing such a good thing for his friend and charity.

Read more on the BBC

Another connected vibrator is found to be totally insecure [6:03]

Recently I wrote an article for EAN magazine on the We Vibe that had been found to be sending back usage information to the company every time it was used. Another one has been found to be totally insecure.

Read more about it on Endagadget

Judge calls rapist "A good man" [8:52]

A judge in Utah called the Mormon bishop he just sentenced for raping a woman "A good man". It is unbelievable that this judge showed such poor taste as he praised the rapist in the dock in front of the victim.

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Praise

Federal judge says if men can walk down the street topless then sho can women [15:25]

The case is still going on but the judge in Fort Collins made the point hat if men can do it then women should be able to as well. We are really hoping that this gets upheld because it is unfair that womens breasts are seen as only being sexual objects when men don't have that problem.

Read the story

Anxiety and Events [21:21]

It is something that is so common yet people think they are on their own. We talk about the ways anxiety can hit and how it can affect someone.

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Apr 20, 2017

This week we are talking about our article on Couples with Depression written by Princess of Kink.

In case you didn't know there was a hurricane in New Zealand (Pixie's homeland) but fortunately it mostly missed the land and everyone was OK.

But before we go into that there are a couple of rants.

We got screwed on something [3:13]

We have been working on latex clothing for going on for a year, it is a labour of love for us. But it isn't kinky, it isn't about sex. It is about great looking fashion for plus-size people. Something that isn't really out there, something we feel is important.

So we were sorting out a photo shoot. It was going to be a 50's inspired shoot on the beach wearing one of our dresses. Not a fetish shoot, but just a straight fashion shoot. The model would be more covered up in our pictures than in most beach shots.

We hired a beach hut to use while we were there, mostly to use to get changed in, store the gear, do makeup in etc. We wanted to doa few shots with the hut as a background but nothing more than that. Found a company and had it all booked.

Then the company got in touch and wanted to know what we were doing. So I told them (big mistake). They decided to cancel the booking because they didn't think latex was appropriate.

This isn't the first time we have come against this sort of discrimination and I'm sure it won't be the last time.

A big thank you and praise

We just want to say a big thank you for Godemiche (Adam and Monika) and everyone who has been so supportive when we talked about this on twitter.

Check out Godemiche's weekly live show on Tuesdays at 10pm on Instagram, Perescope, Facebook. They are always fun and really imformative.

Couple with depression [25:30]

This weeks was a really honest and open article about what it is like when both people in a relationship suffer from depression. It isn't something that is really talked about very often. It is always just assumed that one of the people in the couple will help the other one.

But sometimes that just isn't the case. When both sides of the relationship are suffering who is going to help them?

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Apr 14, 2017

Show notes coming soon

Apr 6, 2017

This week we are talking about our post on Sex and Depression written by Jillian Boyd. It is a very important subject and while it can be tough it is something we need to talk about.

Check out the fantastic story of an Alabama drive in owner who refused to show Beauty and the Beast because of a gay character, but was going to show a film about Drag Queens - Thanks CallMeCara.

Rants

Man in makeup charged with a felony [2:50]

A man is being held on a bond for doing nothing more than wearing Joker make-up. Because in the Virginia it is illegal to 'wear a mask'. Outrageous.

Find out more on IO9

UK Ministers want access to all of our encrypted messages [5:05]

The conversation continues with the UK government want access to all of our encrypted messages. Check out Computerphile's video on End to End encryption if you are a little nerdy.

Find out more on The Verge

Drupal software developer kicked out for liking BDSM [9:55]

A prominent software developer who helps develops the Drupal content management system. Has been asked to distance himself from the project because he likes BDSM.

Find out more on The Reg

Pupils support Milton Keynes teacher [15:15]

Go to the article and see the picture then wonder why a school has suspended her. Besides the fact there is nothing in the picture to worry about, it was done entirely in her own private life.

Pixie Praise

Manchester to open a retirement centre of LGBT citizens [21:20]

Manchester city council will be the first to open a retirement centre for LGBT citizens. This is fantastic, because they do have different wants and needs from others.

Find out more from Pink News

Sex and Depression [24:50]

Depression is a horrible and debilitating condition, it can and does affect every aspect of your life. But something that isn't talked about it how it can screw up your sex life.

Something that is so important to the core of so many people can be horribly affected without any warning at all.

It is a really great article and we can't fully do it justice.

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Mar 23, 2017

This week we are talking about Mutual Masturbation written by Molly Moore. But before we go into that we just need to say how sad we are for the attack that happend in London this week and our sympathies are with the families.

Rants

Sex toy maker WeVibe pays 6.75 million to settle lawsuite [8:30]

This is actually a topic I wrote an article for EAN magazine on months ago. It turned out the WeVibe which is controlled by a mobile phone app actually logs all sorts of information about the user every time it is used. Including when it was used, settings, and even temperature. There was no mention of this on their website of in their terms an conditions. So it has ended up in court and they have lost badly.

Read more about it here

Uber COO stands down [12:00]

We have talked about Uber in the past and their shameful business practices that seem to be going inside the company. As part of that the COO has stepped down saying "It is now clear, however, that the beliefs and approach to leadership that have guided my career are inconsistent with what I saw and experienced at Uber". So it seems the problems run deep at the company and it is now starting to affect their management.

Find out more here

YouTube hiding LGBT videos [13:26]

YouTube has been caught hiding videos put out by LGBT creators when restricted mode was turned on. This meant content that was perfectly safe was not appearing for users of the system.

Find out more

Mutual Masturbation [17:00]

It was really interesting reading this weeks article and explore some of the ideas around it. There is a lot to discuss and there is a surprising depth to the topic. From a couple doing it part of their play to teaching someone else what you like. It can be used in so many ways.

Mar 17, 2017

 

Because we covered Eroticon last week we are covering two topics this week. First isPiecing together peace by Emmeline Peaches. The second is Erotic Massage byVictoria Blisse.

Both great topics and we have a lot to say on them, but before that it was a great week for rants.

Rants

Kink.com moving from their famous premises [1.40]

Kink.com are one of the major producers of porn in the US. They produce all sorts of weird and wonderful types of porn and employ a large number of people to produce it on a regular basis.

They have famously owned the The Armory in San Francisco. Previous a home for the national guard, it is an easily recognisable building.

This is an interesting article because it shows there isn't the money in making porn there once was. Kink.com is a large company that makes a lot of content, and has done for a long time. If anyone knows what they are doing it is them. But (and I am seeing this more and more) there is now such easy access to free porn sites like Kink.com are struggling to make it work for them.

But there does also seem to be an growing emergence of small independent producers like Pandora Blake who can make a great living catering to a very specific niche (Spanking in Pandora's case).

It is going to be interesting to see where this goes.

Original article on Vocativ

Tesco chairman is utterly tone deaf around #InternationWomensDay [13:00]

Being a white male is a privileged position, it doesn't always feel that way but I am becoming more and more away of how much better I have it than a lot of people.Cara Sutra wrote a great post on Admitting my privilege and realising I'm a feminist after all.

John Allen (Chairman of Tesco) told a group of aspiring non-executive directors that white men have become an "endangered species". Where experts say the numbers do not match Mr Allen's assessment in the least. Women accounted for only 29% of appointments to board last year, the lowest proportion since 2012.

It is unfortunate that the chair of one of the largest companies in the UK doesn't understand the privileged position he is in by being white and male. His inability to see the gifts he has been given speak a lot about his views on women.

Original article in the Financial Times

Father rapes his own daughter to prove sex with men is better [20:50]

A father who raped his gay daughter to prove “sex was better with men” has been jailed for 21 years.

This one just totally boggles my mind. What is wrong with someone to think that the right thing to do when their own daughter comes out to them as being gay is to rape her to prove sex with men in better?

There are literally no words that really cover how we feel about this.

Original article in the Independent

School in US body shames its students over what they can wear to prom [24:43]

A catholic high school in Illinois put out a lengthily prom dress code handbook that commented on which dresses certain body shapes could wear and what they couldn't. There were 21 slides in total with 15 of them being aimed only a the girls.

In the same article Ed Sheeran signs the best sick note ever.

Original article on the BBC

Finding peace with crafting [31:30]

Emmeline writes a great article on why crafting can be an incredibly calming experience. The act of making something with your hands, the repetitive nature of doing the same task again and again, thinking only about what you are working on now.

All these things have a wonderfully calming effect on the brain, and provide a wonderful distraction from the every day stresses we all have.

It is something we have seen again and again at events when we are crafting with people. After a little while when they have got the hang of what they are doing they go very quiet and simply focus on getting their job done. After they have finished, besides feeling very proud of themselves for making something, they will say they found it a very therapeutic experience.

Erotic Massage [45:00]

Do you put enough time into looking after your partner? Perhaps a good massage is something you need to try? It doesn't have to lead to sex, it can be simply a pleasurable and relaxing experience for the both of you to enjoy each others company and let off a little of the everyday strains.

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Mar 10, 2017

We are just back from Eroticon and it was a lot of fun, but a lot of work. But it was great to catch up with so many of the bloggers and authors we talk to on a regular basis. A huge hand needs to go to Molly, Michael, and Girl on the Net for all the work they put into making Eroticon happen.

Rant - Just the one

No gays please, we're Christian

Drive in theatre in Alabama will NOT be showing the new Disney film "Beauty and the Beast" because the director has said one of the characters (not a main one) is gay.

If I can’t sit through a movie with God or Jesus sitting by me then we have no business showing it. I know there will be some that do not agree with this decision. That’s fine. We are first and foremost Christians. We will not compromise on what the Bible teaches. We will continue to show family oriented films so you can feel free to come watch wholesome movies without worrying about sex, nudity, homosexuality and foul language.

They make a great point in the article that the theatre is happy to show a film about a Polynesian Demi-God (Moana) and a film glamorising the suicide bombings of government installations (Rogue One). But a film with a gay character... no thank you.

Found on IO9

Eroticon

There is so much to talk about it is hard to know where to start. The best part of being at the event was getting to meet all the amazing writers and bloggers we work with.

We work with so many talented people but a lot of them are either at the other end of the country, or in another country all together. Finally getting meet them face to face makes it so much better.

There were so many great people, and I know there are a ton here we have missed off. But do check out Formidable Femme, @MarvyDarling (Sorry I cocked up your name, totally dropped the r), Emmeline Peaches, The Pageist, Scandarella, Gryphon,Candy Snatch, Violet Fenn, Sub bee, Tabatha Rayne....

and so many many more.

If you have never been to event like this you need to go to experience it. Eroticon especially is excellent, and well worth going to. Once you have been you will be count down the days to the next one.

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Mar 3, 2017

Sorry about the bad audio quality at the start of the audio. I was messing around with the settings and didn't notice the audio was clipping out. I got it under control a little way into the recording. So please bare with it.

This week we are talking about our blog article "Why you need a fetish trainer" written by Jetsetting Jasmine. We talk about what it is, who Jetsetting Jasmine is, and why you might want to consider it.

We do know That's the spot who does do some couples work but this is very different.

Rants

What would be a week with some good rants?

Straight women have fewer orgasms [3:00]

The report in Archives of Sexual Behaviour revealed a "variety of behaviors couples can try to increase orgasm frequency". The report talked to a lot of people from all different walks to determine who was getting the best and most varied sex.

The proportion of people who usually orgasmed was:

  • 65% of heterosexual women
  • 66% of bisexual women
  • 86% of lesbian women
  • 88% of bisexual men
  • 89% of gay men
  • 95% of heterosexual men

Straight from the BBC

Uber is a huge misogynist mess [8:00]

This week a former Uber employee called Susan Fowler write an article on what it was like to work for the tech giant. It turns out the company is awash with rampant sexism and disgraceful behaviour.

From being propositioned for sex on the first day... by her boss. To being told the women of the company wouldn't get jackets like the men because there weren't enough of them to make it worthwhile.

Uber is taking steps to look at what has been said to try and chance the culture. Only time will tell if they can fix the problems.

Originally spotted in The Verge

Women snaps wing mirror off van [12:54]

From the Daily Mail a video shows a woman being catcalled from a van as she waits on her bike at traffic lights. After the van moves away she races after them, and when she catches them she breaks a wing mirror off the vehicle.

Fake News - It turns out this isn't actually real, the Huffington Post has revealed this was actually setup by a company in Shoreditch.

Why you need a Fetish Trainer [21:00]

Written by Jetsetting Jasmine who is actually going to be at Eroticon, so we are really looking forward to saying hello.

We asked her to write this article because she is a trained therapist and runs her own fetish training companies. They work with a lot of people on this exact subject to help them understand more about their own desires.

What we liked the most was their approach to someone who finds they don't enjoy a fetish. That isn't a negative outcome, that is exactly what they want because it shows someone has realised what THEY want, and is now able to talk about it. that isn't a failure, it is a success.

For all types

Knowing where to start with fetishes is hard. If it is something you have never done before where can you start? There is information out there on the Internet, but that doesn't work for everyone. Especially if they find the things they like hard to deal with.

This is where a fetish trainer can come in and really help someone understand not just how a fetish works, but if it is something they want to explore, and how.

Find out more about us

Feb 24, 2017

This week we are talking about what it is like to be a pro-domme. Based on the article written for us by Dominar Jen. We talk about what it was like for where, the ups and the downs.

Before we start. Is it said like "Dom" or "Domm-e"? You hear both ways of saying it out in the world which is the right way? I think you say it like you say the French work "Femme", you would say it "Fem". That way the words "Dom" and "Domme" are actually said the same way because they mean the same thing. They are just written differently to denote the sex of the person.

Rants

Woman battles to seperate from husband [1:45]

A UK court tells a woman she must stay with her husband who she wants to divore for no other reason than this was "of the kind to be expected in marriage". This is incredibly unusual in the UK and not something we thought we see here in the UK.

Find the full story on the BBC

Psychologists find people who like BDSM are just like everyone else [6:55]

A great article on Psychology Today written by@MichaelAaronPhD (based on research done by @Dr_Markie_Twist (Website)) about debunking popular myths around BDSM. Based on a actual study done on 200 people, this ethically approved study used a number of standard based approaches to see what people who enjoyed BDSM were really like.

Looking into things like "Do people who enjoy BDSM come from abusive childhoods?". Of course they don't, and the study finds there is no corolation at all between abuse and BDSM.

It is well worth your time reading the study and looking at the tests they actually did.

Being a pro-domme [12:36]

Written for us by Dominar Jen who was a Pro-Domme for a year so is well places to talk about her experiences. She is actually one of this years top 100 sex bloggers which is how we found out about her and her great blog.

What is a Pro-Domme?

The term "Pro-Domme" is a loaded one. It seems to conjour up this image of a beautuful woman, rising crop in hand, and high black boots.

The reality is it is a really hard job where you are providing very personal services to people. But it isn't who that person really is.

Jen makes the great point that she isn't the one in control when she is providing this service. She is Topping people at best, it isn't Doming someone when they are paying for a service.

It was a lot of fun

While she loves Domming people this was a job, and while that means it wasn't always fun it was fun 75% of the time. Which is pretty good for any job.

It's an easy way to make money?

Yeah right. It is far from easy to do this as a job. Sometimes the clients likes will line up with her own but often it just wouldn't but she would still have to do it.

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Feb 16, 2017

This week we are talking about the article written for us by Erryn Embers on Whorepobia.

Rants

Where is a good week without a couple of nice rants?

Cinema bans single men from screenings of new 50 shades darker film

A cinema in Ireland has banned single men from seeing the new "50 shades darker" film on their own. It seems the owner of cinema is terrified of women become too caught up in this raunchy film and won't be able to control themselves.

"The film is basically porn for women, going on what the distributors are describing to us."

I hate to say this but women have been able to watch porn for a while now, they even great porn made just for. I don't think this is going to do much for them.

See the original article here.

Anal rape of suspect with policeman truncheon was an accident

Police in France have claimed that an officer anally raped a 22-year-old black man with a truncheon by mistake.

This happened recently in France and has caused a massive outcry. The abuse of black men by police in the country has been appalling. With feelings over the mess reaching fever pitch.

The youth worker suffered such severe injuries to his rectum during an arrest last week in Aulnay-sous-Bois, north of Paris, that he needed major emergency surgery and remains in hospital.

But when an internal investigation has concluded with a finding of "insufficient evidence" that the man was raped.

To his credit the magistrate over looking this was not happy and has charged one of the police officers with rape and is still investigating the case. Three other officers have been charged with assault and all four have been suspended.

See the original article from the Independant.

FetLife forced to censor hundreds of groups

FetLife was forced to take action after one of the large card companies asked for its card processing accounts to be closed. Their only available response was to get rid of any and all questionably content.

It is worrying when a card issuer can force a site to close and give no reason for their decision with no way to appeal the decision.

The DailyXtra has a good article covering what happened.

FetLife's own response

Watching porn in public is harassment

This comes off the back of and article that was on this weeks womans hour (listen to it here) and ended up with an article in the Guardian.

The basic contention being that some guy watching porn in public is harassing women.

Whorephobia

Someone we know and have talked to a lot if Charlotte Rose. She is an activist and a sex workers. So it really sickens me when she posted this tweet of what someone was saying to her.

It is a great example of Whorephobia. The hatred of a sex worker for no reason other than that they are a sex worker.

BBC has just put out a great video of "Things not to say to a sex worker" it is only 6 minutes long and well worth a watch.

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